Saturday 17 September 2016

What to Do When She Asks You How Many Women You’ve Slept With

Could your sexual history make or break your relationship? That’s what a new (unscientific) survey conducted by Superdrug Online Doctor, an online pharmacy in the UK, suggests.

In the survey of more than 2,000 Europeans and Americans, 30 percent of the respondents said they’d be at least somewhat likely to end a relationship if they found out their partner had too many previous sexual partners.

What the heck is “too many”?

On average, the women surveyed said they’d consider anyone who had slept with 15 or more partners as “too promiscuous.” Men set the limit at 14 partners.

Should You Tell Your Partner You Cheated?

You screwed up, and now you’re in a bind: Do you keep quiet or confess? It’s a complex dilemma without a one-size-fits-all solution.

“There are no universal rules about coming clean,” says Michele Weiner-Davis, M.S.W., a Colorado-based marriage therapist. “For some couples, the truth can help them begin to heal in an honest and open way.”

In other cases, though, it can lead to a painful breakup, she says.

Here, marriage counselors explain how to determine which course of action you should choose—and how to minimize the damage for both you and your partner.

6 Things You Can Do to Become a Morning Person

At 6 a.m., you might barely have the energy to chug a cup of coffee, let alone go for a run, plan out your day, and start your to-do list.

While it’s tempting to sleep in, waking up with the sun has its own perks—follow these simple tips, and you might even look forward to getting out of bed.

1. STOP SLEEPING IN ON WEEKENDS
It confuses your system, says Frank Scheer, Ph.D., a neuroscientist at Harvard Medical School in Boston.

Sunday 11 September 2016

9 Ways Experts Can Tell If Your Relationship Is Going to Survive

Every couple argues, has dry spells, and hits a rough patch sooner or later. If you’re in the middle of one right now, you might be wondering: “Is my relationship going to make it?”

While there’s no guarantee that any relationship will work, couples therapists say these nine signs indicate that yours will survive.

1. YOU HAVE FUN TOGETHER
“The skills couples need to keep intimacy alive in a long-term relationship aren’t obvious because people don’t talk about them,” says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.

“Most couples need to lower their expectations of romance and glamour and raise the level of fun they have together,” she says. This means having regular dates and check-in talks, plus taking time to enjoy activities together.

Always Exhausted? You Might Have One Of These Conditions

When your immune system is grappling with a disease, that fight requires energy.

So it’s probably not surprising that almost any disease you can name has fatigue listed among its symptoms.

“Fatigue may be the most common symptom people report, and in and of itself it can’t point you toward a diagnosis,” says Roxanne Sukol, M.D., a preventive medicine specialist at Cleveland Clinic.

Also complicating matters: “There are so many different ways to measure fatigue,” says Anne Cappola, M.D., of the University of Pennsylvania’s Division of Endocrinology, Diabetes, and Metabolism.

Why You Should See an Eye Doctor Regularly - Even If You Think Your Vision Is Great

Even if you’re not squinting to see the clock, it doesn’t mean your eyes are in the clear: Many people have vision problems and don’t even know it, a new study published in Optometry and Vision Science suggests.

The researchers found that 58 percent of people with no known vision symptoms when they went in for a routine eye exam actually had at least one significant change noted by their eye doctor.

In the majority of the cases, the diagnoses were relatively minor, like the need for glasses or contacts or an updated prescription for their eye gear.

Still, walking around with an outdated prescription isn’t exactly harmless: You’re more likely to experience eyestrain, headache, and dizziness, according to lead researcher Elizabeth Irving, Ph.D., professor of optometry and vision science at the University of Waterloo.