The Best Way to Ask Her Out

Don’t assume she knows what “let’s grab a drink” means. Nearly 70 percent of single people have been confused about whether an outing was a date or not, a recent report finds.

According to the survey, which was commissioned by ChristianMingle and JDate, men are just as bewildered as women when it comes to classifying dates. That’s a little strange, since guys usually initiate the rendezvous, says April Masini, author of Date Out of Your League.

But here’s why: Many men are purposefully vague when asking a woman out to avoid getting shot down, Masini says. While it’s tempting to try to dodge rejection, if the woman doesn’t know you’re into her romantically, you could get stuck in the friend zone, says Masini.