Sex Tip: Touch Her Here

There are ways to be touched that are brilliant and other ways that are kind of blah. If there's one thing we know about the way people touch each other during sex it's that they often touch their partner the way that they, themselves, like to be touched rather than finding out how their partner likes to be touched.

Although there's a lot of variability in how people like touch, it tends to be the case that men - whose genitals are covered in skin and less sensitive than women's - tend to prefer rougher forms of touch. More thrusting, more vigor. Whereas women - whose genitals are more vulnerable and some ways and more sensitive  in some spots (hello, clitoris!) - tend to prefer less aggressive touch. Women often prefer gentle tongue flicks on the clitoris or gentle but first stimulation of their genitals. Again, this isn't always the case - there are no clear gender rules in sex - but generally speaking this is often how things fall out.

Treat Her to a "Nipple Orgasm"

Nipple orgasms are much more common than you might think, Lou Paget writes in The Big O.

Dr. Herbert Otto describes the breast orgasm as happening at the peak of stimulation when the sensation seems to radiate from the breasts. He claims that it is the second most common form of orgasm among women, which seems especially true of women from our grandmothers' and mothers' generations, who were less likely than modern women to go "all the way." In Dr. Otto's study group of 213 women, 29 percent of the women had experienced a breast orgasm at one time or another.