Women Aren't Having Orgasms. Men Don't Know Why. Let's Talk About It.

Sex can be romantic. Animalistic. Should be pleasurable. Egalitarian. Messy, but in a good way. Fun. Often, it’s straight-up confusing. When it comes to a guy’s climax, the routine is fairly simple: You get a little turned on, there’s some touching or rubbing or partnered stimulation of some kind, and then when you’ve reached the point of no return—a release!

But women’s orgasms can be as confounding as a Westworld plotline. First we have to feel generally comfortable around you, then remember whether or not we left our curling iron plugged in this morning, reassure ourselves that we unplugged it, then remind ourselves that we’re making out with a guy we really like. The blood eventually rushes to our genitals, and the touching from then on has to be juuuuust right—not too hard, not too soft, and usually on the exact right spot. Things are going well! We’re feeling it! And even then, sometimes when an orgasm is ascending like a firework—poof!—it turns out it was just a dud.

Why Men Are Having Less Sex Now Than They Did 15 Years Ago

The past really was the good old days—at least in the bedroom. People in the ‘90s and early ‘00s were having more sex than we are now, a new study in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior found.

The researchers analyzed survey data collected from 26,620 Americans since 1989. They discovered that the average American was doing it 16 fewer times per year between 2010 and 2014 than they were between 2000 and 2004. They were also getting busy nine fewer times from 2010 to 2014 compared to 1995 to 1999.

Those who were married or in relationships were the only ones affected by this downward slope. Singles enjoyed the same amount of sex throughout the two decades. In the mid 2000s, Americans who had never married began having more sex than married people for the first time.

Why It’s Normal For Happily Married Men to Fantasize About Divorcing Their Wives

It pops up from time to time: The thought of divorcing your wife even though you’re happy with her.

So if you’re still satisfied with your wife, why do you fantasize about untying the knot?

It’s a normal reaction, and often times occurs because something other than the relationship is causing strain, like your job or financial situation, says Jared DeFife, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and relationship therapist in Atlanta.

STUDY: Women Would Rather Date Nice Guys Than Good-Looking Men

Nice guys finish first—even ahead of the good-looking ones, according to new research from the U.K.

Women rated how much they wanted to date certain men after reviewing their photos and stories of how they acted in given scenarios, like when walking by a homeless person. For example, some bachelors pretended to look at their phones but others bought the homeless man a sandwich.

The ladies were more interested in unattractive men who had acted kindly than handsome guys who had acted selfishly.

The Dangerous Disease That 25% of Men Over 40 Have (and Often Don’t Know It)

Your medical history might have some serious holes in it. Nearly 80 percent of people with a common liver disease aren’t diagnosed, finds a new study from Baylor College of Medicine.

In the study, researchers determined that participants had non-alcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD)—an often-symptom-free accumulation of fat in the liver—if their lab work showed persistently elevated liver enzymes and no indication of organ-damaging factors like hepatitis or excessive alcohol use.

Why Men Suddenly Develop Pregnancy Symptoms When YOU'RE Expecting

This article was written by Ali Eaves and provided by our partners at Men's Health.

It's nothing compared to what women's bodies goes through—but men experience hormonal changes when their partners are pregnant, finds a new University of Michigan study. Researchers tested the hormone levels of first-time fathers-to-be and found that their testosterone dropped as the baby grew.

Don't panic—we're not talking clinically low T levels, says study author Robin Edelstein, Ph.D. But the changes could be just enough to subtly influence his personality, like making him more nurturing and devoted to you and your future child (not such a bad thing).

9 Things Some Men Are Too Afraid to Ask For in Bed

No matter how much crazy-great sex you and your partner might be having, admit it: You've wondered if there's any desire he's holding back. Hey, chances are you have a fantasy or curiosity that you may or may not have worked up the courage to divulge just yet, so what's his?

To find out, we asked some men what they're not asking for in the bedroom (but secretly kind of want to). Their answers may or may not surprise you, but regardless, it's a good reminder that we can all be a little more open behind closed doors.

Why Would Men Turn Down Casual Sex?

Say you were to approach a strange man in public and ask him, “Will you have sex with me?” What do you think he’d say? A social-experiment group called Whatever did just that: They sent a hot woman up to random men to ask if they could spare a few minutes for romance-free, totally impersonal intercourse. And guess what? Half of the men said yes. 

Study Confirms that Women Need More Sleep Than Men

By Meredith Carroll
When I was a teen my dad was convinced I was on drugs because all I wanted to do was sleep.

Of course these days we know from sleep scientists that "early high school start times conflict with teens' shifting circadian rhythms," sleep expert Judith Owens recently said to NPR. Thus, teens are more likely to stay up late at night and want to sleep later in the day

I'm no longer a teen (far from it, in fact), and yet I am still neither on drugs nor do I sleep any less. Turns out I continue to have an excuse for my desire to sleep. Often.

8 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex

By Diana Kelly
Chances are you would never tell your best friend’s boyfriend what she’s spilled to you about their sack sessions—and for good reason (um, awkward!). Sex therapists, however, are more loose-lipped, at least when it comes to sharing guys’ secrets that will strengthen your relationship and make for even hotter sex. Learn what he’s dishing out behind that closed door and how you can use that knowledge to make both of you happier, in and out of bed.

Heart Attack Risks for Men and Women

By Laurie Stoneham | dailyRx: Relevant Health News

Women with mild forms of heart disease are thought to be at greater risk of one day having a major cardiac event and maybe dying from it. An international study has challenged this belief.

Men and women who have similar forms of coronary artery disease — characterized by plaque build-up in the heart’s main arteries — have similar heart attack and death risks, according to the new study.

The study analyzed information on thousands of people from around the world to reach this conclusion.