How to Keep from Gagging During Oral, Because It Happens

The spontaneity that can make sex so amazing (mmm, what was that?) can also make it absolutely cringey (OMG, what the eff was that!?). Here's the thing, though: Embarrassing bed seshes happen to the best of us. And while a rogue queef may kill the mood, there's an upside in the long run. "The less-than-romantic times give you both a chance to show your vulnerability, to bond, to feel closer," explains Emily Morse, a sexologist and host of the podcast Sex with Emily. And let's not forget: to laugh your ass off about it later! We rounded up some "help!" scenarios straight from real women to get some insta-fixes from experts.

"I was going down on my BF when I started gagging—and, OMG, actually spat out some of the romantic dinner we'd just had. I'm now officially terrified of oral!" —Lisa, 31, in a relationship for one year

5 Reasons She Hates Oral Sex

Can't break her BJ embargo? While some women just aren't interested in fellatio, your partner may be fine with it—but you could be killing her desire to go down below. Here are five things you do that turn her off to oral sex.

1. You get handsy. “When a guy pushes his partner’s head down during [oral sex], that’s the biggest complaint I hear from women,” says Ava Cadell, a doctor of human sexuality and author of NeuroLoveology. Despite what you see in porn, a lot of women aren’t cool with you working her head like it’s a football and you’re running a play-action fake. Instead, “Give her compliments on how good she is at giving oral and how beautiful she looks while she is doing it,” Cadell advises.