4 Things Every Woman Wants to Hear In a Relationship

Whether you've been with your partner for a couple months or many years, sometimes it's the tiniest gestures that make the biggest impact. Sure, planning elaborate dates can be great, but at the end of the day, a seemingly simple comment can mean everything.

To learn just what to say to make your partner feel adored, we chatted with top therapists for specific statements that will help you talk your way to tighter bonds.

Here's exactly what to say if you want to strengthen your connection with your partner. (And be sure to have some Lelo Hex condoms from the Men's Health store on hand in case you decide to take it to the next level.)

The One Thing That Never Fails to Turn a Woman On

Ali Eaves, the Men’s Health Girl Next Door, takes all your questions on women, love, and lust.

What’s the one thing that never fails to light a woman’s fire? 
—Ben from Charleston, South Carolina

Sometimes my husband lets me “catch” him watching the dirty video we made on vacation in Jamaica a few years ago. It’s probably a ploy, but it works every time.

The idea that he’d rather look at me than one of those barely legal blondes on PornHub? Swoon.

But even if you’ve never filmed any sexy home movies together, the idea is this: Find a way to convey that it’s her that you want. Urgently.

Women love to feel wanted. Neuroscientist Ogi Ogas, Ph.D., once told Men’s Health that female sexual fantasies center on the feeling of being desired. That feeling can instantly trigger her arousal.

The One Thing That Never Fails to Turn a Woman On

Ali Eaves, the Men’s Health Girl Next Door, takes all your questions on women, love, and lust.

What’s the one thing that never fails to light a woman’s fire?
                                                —Ben from Charleston, South Carolina

Sometimes my husband lets me “catch” him watching the dirty video we made on vacation in Jamaica a few years ago. It’s probably a ploy, but it works every time.

Why You Should Never Ever Ask a Woman If She Had an Orgasm

For men, sex is all about the grand finale: the orgasm

But if you think women feel the same way, you’re mistaken, says Debby Herbenick, M.P.H., Ph.D., Men’s Health sex professor and associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University.

The truth is, only 56 percent of women report orgasming from intercourse alone, a study from Sweden found.

Instead, females tend to rate intercourse as more pleasurable based on the strength of the bond they felt with their partner—not by the strength of their orgasm, says Herbenick.

That’s why no man should ask his partner whether she had an orgasm. You may think you’re being a good guy by asking. After all, climaxing feels amazing, and you want her to experience that, too.

Things You Should Never Say to a Woman on a First Date

Yes, she’s smart, funny, attractive and single. You feel that it’s time, five minutes into the date, to say something that the logical side of your brain isn't so sure about.

Stop talking.

Stop talking.

Seriously, stop making words. You want to stand out. You’ve had some alcohol. You end up trying to casually mention your bank account or workout routine. You don’t succeed because that approach never succeeds.

Is It Possible for Every Woman to Get Her Abs Back Post-Pregnancy?

Popping out a baby does a number on your body: Your boobs get droopier, stretch marks crisscross your middle, and your vagina, well, let’s not even go there. (Hint: Expect pigment changes.) But of all the issues brought on by a bun in the oven, one of the most frustrating is post-pregnancy belly flab. Is the squishiness fixable, or are flat abs a thing of the past? Even super glam Reese Witherspoon said in a recent interview with the blog Cricket's Circle that her abs were "nonexistent" after she gave birth to her three kids. So we went to an expert to find out if it's actually possible for every woman to get her core muscles back in pre-baby shape.