A card, flowers, and brunch are the go-to gifts for the woman who raised you, but are they that thoughtful? What does a modern mom really want on the official salute-your-mom day of the year? Stop clinging to the cliché and give her a day she can brag about.
Arrange adventure
Your mom probably doesn’t want to sit around in a rocking chair all day, says Kate Lombardi, author of The Mama’s Boy Myth. “Moms want to have fun and hang out,” she says. So, go for a hike—pack a few beers—listen to live music, hit the bar, or pass the afternoon taking in America’s pastime. You can even suggest a last-minute weekend getaway to the beach or somewhere close by that she’s always wanted to go, says psychologist Peggy Drexler, Ph.D. Think outside of activities you typically do with your mom, and consider arranging something neither of you have done. “To spend time with their sons, moms would definitely try something new,” says Lombardi. You’ll both have a new shared experience and a great story to tell.
Whistle up a surprise
If you’re an expert on your mom and her interests, give her a call and tell her to clear her schedule for a specific block of time on Saturday or Sunday, but don’t tell her why, says Lombardi. Organize something you know she enjoys doing, and make sure you’re available to do it with her. If she’s a master in the kitchen, jump into a cooking class, suggests Drexler. Devote time to whatever it is she loves the most. “The most important part of giving a gift for Mother’s Day is showing that you appreciate your mother for who she is,” says Amy Przeworski, Ph.D. Your mom will be excited that you took time to plan something special and impressed that you know her so well.
Share your favorite things
You don’t have to be Oprah to share your favorite things. Include your mom in what you like doing, says Lombardi. She’ll love engaging in your interests. You can also give her a gift that has special significance to you, like your favorite book, that may give rise to a deep conversation. “I like reading books recommended by my son. It gives me a little insight into his interests while also sparking great conversation,” says Drexler. You may find that some of your favorite things are hers, too.
Split up your fam
Even though you’re all adults now, your siblings may still take away your quality time with mom and dad. So plan time with your mom this Sunday without your brothers or sisters—or even dad—says Lombardi. If the number of kids in your family rivals the Duggars, this won’t be easy. But rightfully claim at least a couple hours for just the two of you. “She really wants time alone with you,” says Lombardi. One-on-one moments lead to stronger connections. Later, link up with your whole family at the end of the day.
Reschedule if necessary
If your calendar’s already packed, it’s okay, says Lombardi. Although taking a time out on the designated day shows dedication, your mom will understand if you really have an inability to spend the day with her (i.e., you must work or you live incredibly far away). But that doesn’t mean you’re in the clear until next year. Suggest another day that you can devote to your mom, and stick with your new commitment.
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Article source: http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/5-easy-ways-make-your-mom-happy
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