3 Easy Ways to Make Her Want You—Right Now

Keeping the flame ignited in a long-term relationship isn’t about tantra or buying her new lingerie (though those may not hurt either).

Instead, the secret to lasting sexual desire is something called responsiveness, researchers say.

Great! So…what the heck is that?

That’s when you show your partner that you value them—that you understand and appreciate their needs and support their goals, says study author Gurit Birnbaum, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya in Israel.

Why 42% Of Women Would Rather Eat a Nice Dinner Than Have Sex With You

Lobster: Better than an orgasm?

That’s what more than 2 in 5 women would say, according to a recent (unscientific) survey directed by Havas Worldwide, an advertising company, and Market Probe International, a market research company.

In the survey of nearly 12,000 people worldwide, about half of both men and women said they thought eating could be as pleasurable as sex.

To top off that romantic stat, the researchers also forced the subjects to pick (hypothetically) between sex and an excellent dinner at a restaurant. Given the choice, 42 percent of the women would take the dinner, please. That’s compared to just 26 percent of men.

The One Thing That Never Fails to Turn a Woman On

Ali Eaves, the Men’s Health Girl Next Door, takes all your questions on women, love, and lust.

What’s the one thing that never fails to light a woman’s fire? 
—Ben from Charleston, South Carolina

Sometimes my husband lets me “catch” him watching the dirty video we made on vacation in Jamaica a few years ago. It’s probably a ploy, but it works every time.

The idea that he’d rather look at me than one of those barely legal blondes on PornHub? Swoon.

But even if you’ve never filmed any sexy home movies together, the idea is this: Find a way to convey that it’s her that you want. Urgently.

Women love to feel wanted. Neuroscientist Ogi Ogas, Ph.D., once told Men’s Health that female sexual fantasies center on the feeling of being desired. That feeling can instantly trigger her arousal.

The One Thing That Never Fails to Turn a Woman On

Ali Eaves, the Men’s Health Girl Next Door, takes all your questions on women, love, and lust.

What’s the one thing that never fails to light a woman’s fire?
                                                —Ben from Charleston, South Carolina

Sometimes my husband lets me “catch” him watching the dirty video we made on vacation in Jamaica a few years ago. It’s probably a ploy, but it works every time.

How to Boost Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

When you've been with the same partner for a long time, there will inevitably be times when you want to climb them like a tree and times that you just don't. It's totally normal.

That said, mismatched libidos can sometimes become a bigger problem and lead to stress in a relationship—not to mention a lack of satisfaction. So researchers aimed to find out what strategies women were using to manage sexual desire differences in their bond and if any of them were particularly useful.