6 Guys Reveal the Weirdest Sex Dreams They've Ever Had

Dreams are so unpredictable. Some night's you're falling off a cliff or frantically prepping for a presentation you forgot about. Other nights, you're getting all hot and bothered between the sheets—and often, it's not with the person in bed next to you.

Sex dreams are super common, and they can also be super unsettling. You may dream of having sex with your boss, an ex, or even a family member—gross! But don't worry: Sex dreams don't represent a desire for sex, necessarily. As Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, a professional dream analyst and author of Dream on It: Unlock Your Dreams, Change Your Life, previously told Men's Health, these dreams can represent anything you feel you're lacking in your life. It could be control; self-love; respect.

How to Avoid a Communication Breakdown in Your Relationship

From the outside looking in, relationships seem pretty straightforward. Once you couple up, you have a built-in person to watch Brooklyn Nine-Nine with and wrap your arms around at night. But the hard truth is that relationships take work. Any relationship therapist will tell you that approximately 90 percent of having a successful, healthy relationship is about communication.

So what happens if you never learned how to effectively communicate, especially when it comes to telling your partner how you feel (about them, about your shitty day at work, about the way you feel when they make googly eyes at that one celebrity with the rock-hard abs...)?

What Happens to Your Sex Life When You're Treated for Cancer

A cancer diagnosis and treatment can affect many aspects of a man’s life, from day-to-day tasks to more personal interactions like intimacy with a partner. After certain treatments like chemotherapy, radiation or surgery, a cancer patient’s body may no longer look or feel as it once did.

Though changes are to be expected, it’s important to recognize the ways a body might respond post-cancer, and how that can affect your sex life. Here are some differences you might notice and ways you can establish new forms of intimacy with your partner.

How to Know if You're in a Rebound Relationship

Finding yourself in a rebound relationship supposedly spells doom for a budding romance. As popular opinion goes, rebounds reek of sadness and regret: One person has just gotten out of a long-term relationship, is likely still hurting from that breakup, and grabs onto another person to bury the pain. It’s not a great situation (though some research says that people who rebound may have better self-esteem than those who don’t).

3 Women Reveal What It's Like to Have Nipple-Only Orgasms

While clitoral and vaginal orgasms might get all the attention, nipple orgasms are another legit way to explore your partner's pleasure in bed. Here, three anonymous women open up about what it’s like to experience nipple-only orgasms.

How did you first discover you could orgasm through nipple stimulation?
Woman A: My family was on a vacation and there was porn on the TV in the hotel. I just tried what I saw and discovered that it felt good.

Woman B: Through foreplay and experimentation with my first boyfriend. We were both very inexperienced at the time and neither of us had had previous sexual partners, so we were exploring each other's bodies. It was a case of "How does this feel? And this?" There was a build-up of pleasure. It was gradual, but quite powerful, so by the time, I orgasmed I wasn't too surprised. I was honestly quite pleased afterward! As far as I'm concerned, it's a brilliant thing — just another way to achieve pleasure.

How Women Want You to Talk Dirty During Sex

About a year and a half ago, I had my first bad experience with dirty talk. I'd been seeing this guy Will* for a few months, and we were having sex. Then, all of a sudden, smack in the middle of it, he leaned down, pressed his lips against my ear, and hissed, “You like that, don’t you, you dirty little slut?”

Now, we’d both done some pretty intense dirty talk in the past. But there was something about being called a slut during sex that stopped me cold. I immediately asked Will to stop what he was doing, and we talked about what had just happened. He was apologetic, and he never used that word again in my presence.

Don’t get me wrong — I love some good dirty talk. But in the wake of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, I've been forced to reckon with my own history of harassment. And while I recognize that some women are turned on by hearing words like "slut" and "whore" during sex, for me, it just doesn't sit well.

How Deep Throating Exploded Into America's Bedrooms

The year 1972 will be remembered for a lot of different things. It was then that Bobby Fisher won the World Chess Championship. It’s also when the Watergate scandal broke. But let 1972 also go down as the year that forever changed our relationship with oral sex. Because that was the year Deep Throat premiered in New York City.

The film, which introduced the late Linda Lovelace to the world, and the world to hardcore pornography, follows the struggle of a woman whose clitoris happened to live in her throat. Eventually, she realizes that the only way to stimulate the misplaced pleasure point is to pivot her oral sex technique—She must learn how to open wider and go deeper than ever before. Not before long, audiences began to adopt the same style of fellatio. And that’s how the “deep throat” method trickled off screen and into bedrooms across America.

If You Want Better Sex, You Might Want to Upgrade Your Bedroom

They say you should “dress for the job you want.” The same holds true in the bedroom: If you want to have good sex, you should have a good bed. A man who knows the thread count of his sheets is a man who has his life together. That’s sexy. If you sleep on an air mattress that begins deflating as soon as you hop in, that’s not sexy. You’re going to have to do some pretty extravagant foreplay to make sure she doesn’t refer to you as “air mattress guy” forevermore.

Make sure you’re not violating any of these bed deal breakers.

Here's the Right Way to Ask Somebody Out on a Date

Real talk: Asking someone out is super nerve-wracking.

Now matter how confident you are, putting yourself out there is a big risk—because getting turned down stings. That's why you may end up avoiding asking people out altogether, or acting so nonchalant and non-committal that the person you're asking out doesn't even know if it's a date or not.

This is no way to be. We have all the information you need right here: Everything you need to know about asking someone out in a way that will leave you feeling OK, no matter the answer.

Women Aren't Having Orgasms. Men Don't Know Why. Let's Talk About It.

Sex can be romantic. Animalistic. Should be pleasurable. Egalitarian. Messy, but in a good way. Fun. Often, it’s straight-up confusing. When it comes to a guy’s climax, the routine is fairly simple: You get a little turned on, there’s some touching or rubbing or partnered stimulation of some kind, and then when you’ve reached the point of no return—a release!

But women’s orgasms can be as confounding as a Westworld plotline. First we have to feel generally comfortable around you, then remember whether or not we left our curling iron plugged in this morning, reassure ourselves that we unplugged it, then remind ourselves that we’re making out with a guy we really like. The blood eventually rushes to our genitals, and the touching from then on has to be juuuuust right—not too hard, not too soft, and usually on the exact right spot. Things are going well! We’re feeling it! And even then, sometimes when an orgasm is ascending like a firework—poof!—it turns out it was just a dud.

Married Women Orgasm Way Less Than Their Husbands

If you're in a long-term relationship, you probably think you have a pretty good idea of what makes your partner come. But if you're under the impression that your mate is having an orgasm every time you have sex, you might be mistaken, my friend.

According to a recent study out of Brigham Young University, just 49% of married women said they consistently experience orgasm during sex, compared to a whopping 87% of married men.

The study looked at data from 1,683 heterosexual newlywed couples. The men and women were separately asked about personal orgasm frequency, their perception of how often their partner orgasms, and their relationship and sexual satisfaction.

14 Things Women Want You to Know About Showering Together

Whether you're hopping in the shower together to save time, conserve water, or make an honest attempt at shower sex, sharing a tiny shower stall with a grown man is always treacherous. Most showers are built for one, and shoving two people in one is like the human body equivalent of trying to fit too many clothes in your suitcase. But done right, getting all ~*~wet and soapy~*~ with your partner can be hot. Just be careful not to slip.

1. Yes, feel free to use my shampoo, but go easy on it because that bottle cost me $20. You know how my hair always looks like it's being hit with the beams from a thousand shining suns? That's because my shampoo is top-notch and might have actual flecks of gold in it, so please mind your squeeze.

8 Things You're Not Doing After Sex That You Should Be

There’s a lot of literature out there about what to do before having sex and what to do during sex. (And we mean a lot of literature.) And hopefully, all of this advice has given you more confidence in approaching and executing the horizontal mambo.

But once the dance is over and you’ve both taken your final bow, it can get a little bit awkward. In movies or porn, you often see couples lying in bed after sex, their chests heaving in sweaty ecstasy, before cutting to the next scene. But there are a lot of other details to consider after sex that can make or break a successful sexual encounter.

9 Things Every Guy Needs to Do After a Bad Breakup

Guys tend to take breakups hard. We slice our suffering into long, dull, depressing chapters. We constantly obsess over what went wrong, spending hours investigating all the emotional forensics and telling ourselves the stories of our breakups over and over again. And we stalk our exes on social media for months, if not longer. We don't recver from breakups. We simply grind on, according to Craig Eric Morris, Ph.D., a Penn State anthro­pologist who studies heartbreak.

What’s more, a breakup can trigger an actual mental health condition. It’s called abandonment rage, a term coined by Reid Meloy, Ph.D., a psychologist at UC San Diego. Now that your ex is gone, you’re devastated. And like a tornado survivor, you’re wondering what the hell just happened.

How Many Calories Does an Orgasm Burn?

Having an orgasm is a powerful, full-body experience. Your muscles contract, your breath quickens, and you might even break a sweat.

Which is why you may have wondered at one point or another: How many calories does an orgasm burn? Your heart's pumping like you're running a marathon and you're clenching your core like you're busting out an ab workout, so it's got to be something, right?

Determined to figure it out, I put on my Sherlock Holmes cap and reached out to Dr. Uchenna Ossai, a pelvic health physical therapist and sex educator for LifeStyles Condoms. Here's what she had to say.

Stop Orbiting Your Exes on Social Media

• "Orbiting" is a dating trend that has been referred to as "the new ghosting"
• The definition of orbiting is continuing to interact with an ex's content on social media, even if you've ceased all IRL contact with them
• We talked to relationship experts about how orbiting can do real psychological harm

I hadn’t thought about my college boyfriend for years when I noticed he’d viewed one of my Instagram stories. At first, I didn't think much of it, though I was somewhat surprised that he still followed me (he did, after all, break up with me via text). I did, however, find it unusual that he watched the next story I posted...and the next. He's watched every single Instagram story I've posted since.

The Truth About Why Some Women Masturbate During Sex

My ex-boyfriend couldn’t keep his hands to himself. I don’t mean that he was a huge fan of PDA — he actually wasn't. I mean he was handsy in bed, in that he would physically prevent me from touching myself.

It was the oddest thing. We’d be having sex, and I’d feel the desire to reach between my legs for a little massage. My ex would spot this, push my hand away, and try to get the job done himself. I hated it. It completely took me out of the moment, and it never resulted in a good orgasm for me.

My ex wasn’t the only one who suffered from handsiness. A few of my former sexual partners have acted like they were emotionally wounded by the fact that my hand was on my clitoris. In my experience, when I touch myself during sex, men tend to react one of two ways: They either think they’re not getting me off, so they get offended or ask what they can do; or they think it’s some coded way for me to tell them that I want them to touch me, so they take matters into their own hands.

10 Things Every Guy Should Do While He's Still Single

Bachelorhood shouldn't just be about nights out followed by days hungover on the couch. The ultimate perk of being single is having nobody to answer to. Do you really want to squander that precious free time by binging shows and getting all of your meals delivered? The only person standing in your way is you.

TRAVEL ALONE
Whether you’re more of an urban explorer or a beach bum, traveling alone is a great way to achieve the peace of mind that most people are seeking on vacation. There’s a lot of pleasure to take out of being entirely on your own schedule for a few days and filling that time however you see fit. It also gives you an opportunity to break out of your social comfort zone and meet a few fellow tourists.

8 Things You're Not Doing After Sex That You Should Be

There’s a lot of literature out there about what to do before having sex and what to do during sex. (And we mean a lot of literature.) And hopefully, all of this advice has given you more confidence in approaching and executing the horizontal mambo.

But once the dance is over and you’ve both taken your final bow, it can get a little bit awkward. In movies or porn, you often see couples lying in bed after sex, their chests heaving in sweaty ecstasy, before cutting to the next scene. But there are a lot of other details to consider after sex that can make or break a successful sexual encounter.

4 Ways to Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Hot

You know how the saying goes: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That’s great, but fondness isn’t all it takes to keep the flame alive between you and your long-distance partner. Sex is important, too, which can obviously be hard to come by when you two don’t live in the same city, or even the same state.

But your sex life is not all-or-nothing. In other words, just because you aren’t getting busy on a regular basis, that shouldn’t stop you from keeping things hot while you’re apart. Try out these long-distance relationship ideas that will keep things ridiculously hot, no matter how many miles separate you.

1. SWAP PHONE CALLS FOR VIDEO CALLS
It’s great to hear your girlfriend's voice, but seeing her is even better. That might seem like a huge duh, but it’s often so much easier to chat whenever one of you has the time, like while you're in line at the grocery store or driving to work. Not the sexiest of environments. Even though video calls might require more scheduling, they’re worth it.