8 Things You Say On First Dates That Guarantee You Won’t Get a Second

While perusing our menus at a restaurant, Francois, a retired French race care driver, leans into my ear and whispers in his heavy French accent, “I can’t wait until your tongue is in my ass later.”

It was our first date.

And we hadn’t even ordered yet.

Without looking up from the appetizer list, I replied, “Sorry, that is not on the menu.”

Neither was a second date.

Ok, you probably know better than to ask a woman for analingus before appetizers. But that’s not the only verbal slipup that can kill your chances for a second date. We talked to than a dozen women about their real-world experiences on first dates to find out what else you should avoid saying. Read on for eight phrases to eliminate from your first-date vocabulary.

Why You Should Order the Exact Same Thing As Your Date or Client

Want to click with your dinner dates? Order the same thing they do, new research from the University of Chicago suggests.

In the study, pairs of strangers either ate the same snack as their partners or a different snack. Then they played a game designed to measure trust: One partner could choose how much money to give the other based on how much he or she trusted the other’s judgment.

On average, the people who ate the same snack as their partners gave almost 30 percent more money to their partners and said they felt about 17 percent closer to them than the pairs who ate different types of food.

Things You Should Never Say to a Woman on a First Date

Yes, she’s smart, funny, attractive and single. You feel that it’s time, five minutes into the date, to say something that the logical side of your brain isn't so sure about.

Stop talking.

Stop talking.

Seriously, stop making words. You want to stand out. You’ve had some alcohol. You end up trying to casually mention your bank account or workout routine. You don’t succeed because that approach never succeeds.