You screwed up, and now you’re in a bind: Do you keep quiet or confess? It’s a complex dilemma without a one-size-fits-all solution.
“There are no universal rules about coming clean,” says Michele Weiner-Davis, M.S.W., a Colorado-based marriage therapist. “For some couples, the truth can help them begin to heal in an honest and open way.”
In other cases, though, it can lead to a painful breakup, she says.
Here, marriage counselors explain how to determine which course of action you should choose—and how to minimize the damage for both you and your partner.