So, what's your Sex Ray, pal? Don't have one? Do or don't, we guarantee you'll pick up something fun for heating your sheets in our non-PBS version of the ABCs.
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A-Spot
Short for Anterior Fornix Erogenous (AFE) Zone, this is a sensitive area located midway between a woman's cervix and G-spot on the front wall of the vagina. Stroking this highly sensitive spongy area causes almost immediate lubrication. To reach it, insert a lubed finger into the vagina as far as it will comfortable go. Rub gently using the length of the finger exploring the front wall. When found, she'll start to get wet.
Altoid
Spice up oral sex by sucking on an extra-strength mint lozenge before you stroll down below. Refreshing!
Anal Play
The practice of anal sex has been around for centuries and today it is more common among heterosexuals than one might think. Many couples find it to be highly enjoyable, partly because the area near the rectum is a sensory-rich venue with loads of nerve endings close to the surface.
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Blindfold
Blocking out one of the senses, such as sight, heightens sensitivity of the others to compensate. Plus, when you can't see what will happen next, the anticipation can be pretty exciting. Try the padded leather blindfold from MyPleasure.com. Can't wait for FedEx? Then cover his or her eyes with the shirt you were just wearing. "Your natural scent is a huge aphrodisiac," says Sharon Moalem, PhD, author of How Sex Works.
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Camel Toe
Slang term referring to female genitalia.
C-tactile Nerve Fibers
The body is brimming with these pleasurable nerves, especially on the forearms. British researchers say that when they are stroked just right—with the light pressure of a painter's brushstroke, at 1 to 10 centimeters a second—those nerves send signals to the limbic system, an area of the brain associated with trust and affection.
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Double Protection
Using two forms of birth control may make sex twice as good. The Kinsey Institute found that women who use a hormonal contraceptive plus condoms report higher overall sexual satisfaction. Researchers believe that when women are less worried about pregnancy and STDs, they can relax and enjoy themselves more.
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Erotic Literature
Sneak over to the erotica section of the bookstore. Purchase a few copies and reenact some particularly literary scenes. Check out Heat Wave: Sizzling Sex Stories by Alison Tyler, The Black Lace Series by Kerri Sharp, Seducing the Highlander by Emma Wildes, and Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
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Fantasizing
Surveys suggest that men fantasize about sexual encounters about twice as often as women do. But it can be one of the most effective ways for women to tune in to a sexual experience because it helps turn off the parts of [their] brain associated with stress and anxiety. In fact, fantasizing is powerful enough to trigger orgasms in some women. In a study Beverly Whipple, PhD, co-author of The Science of Orgasm along with her colleagues Gena Ogden, PhD, and Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, monitored the blood pressure, heart rate, pupil diameters, and pain tolerance of 10 women who claimed they could think their way to climax. As the subjects fantasized in a lab, seven exhibited the exact physical responses caused by hands-on stimulation. Encouraging your partner to fantasize may be difficult unless you know these secret strategies.
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Games
Most sex games are cheesier than a Kraft Foods convention. But, with the right attitude, you might find that makes them all the more fun.
Classic: Bumps and Grinds. Drinking and stripping board game for two to six players, circa 1967.
Free: Check out Adultsexygames.com for free donwnloadable games that you can play with your partner. Try Romantic Dares, where you take turns flipping over virtual cards on screen with sex tasks for you to complete.
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Hand-Job: The Boy Scout Method. Find out how in The Big Book of Sex.
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Intercourse
A very sweet cocktail made with 4 ounces orange juice, 2 ounces Absolute Vodka, and equal amounts of Hawaiian Punch and Mountain Dew. Mix gently and pour over ice in a highball glass.
J
Joy of Sex, The
First published in 1972 by British gerontologist Alex Comfort, MD, PhD, The Joy of Sex: A Gourmet Guide to Lovemaking, is a landmark sex book known for its erotic sketches of sexual positions. The latest update, worth procuring, is The New Joy of Sex published in 2008.
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Kissing, Advanced
Sweeten the deal. Eat a strawberry before making out. The sugar activates the sweetness receptors in your mouth, so when you kiss your sense of taste will go into overdrive, says Krista Bloom, PhD, author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz.
Try facial intercourse. This smooch mimics sex from foreplay to penetration, beginning with a tongue exploration inside the mouth. Rub your tongues together in small and large circles, then dart them in and out of your mouths as if you were having intercourse.
Play vampire. Kiss the throat. Since this area is one of the most vulnerable spots on the body, softly kissing and licking it will feel like erotic torture. The neck is one of the most ticklish spots on the body, so exploring different degrees of sensation can be tantalizing.
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Lubricants
Thanks to good marketing, personal lubricants have finally shed their medicinal reputation and are now considered a sex kit essential. They can help make intercourse more comfortable for a woman and reduce friction for a man, helping him to last longer. Women's Health contributors tested a box of popular brands and chose these favorites: Here are two favorites:
Best for Sex Toys: Hydra Smooth
Creamy, water-based formula won't damage silicone sex toys. Compatible with condoms, unlike oil-based lubes. Glycerin-free to avoid irritation ($14.99, drugstore.com).
Best for Speedy Arousal: Durex Play O and K-Y Intense
These lubes encourage blood flow to the clitoris, which results in warming and tingling sensations ($7.50 to $25, drugstore.com).
M
Mirrors
Double your viewing pleasure during sex by strategically placing a large mirror near the bed to catch the flickers of candlelight and your bodies in lusty motion. Seeing yourselves engaged in the act will heighten your arousal.
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Outercourse
This is sex without penetration, and it can be incredibly hot. In fact, many women find that because the focus of the friction is on the clitoris, they can orgasm quicker and more often through outercourse than intercourse. How-to: Apply a water-based lubricant liberally to the head and shaft of the penis and the labia, clitoris, pubic hair. In one popular version, the woman lies on her back and keeps her legs together, spreading her well-lubed inner thighs just enough for her partner, on top, to slide his erect penis between them and her lips. She can now squeeze her lips to tighten her grip on his penis as he thrusts and stimulates her clitoris with his moving shaft. From this position, try various circular motions, squeezes, pelvic lifts, and grinding thrusts to create a good massage for the clitoris and head of the penis.
P
Pillows
Missionary, doggy, spoon, almost any position can be enhanced with a few strategically placed pillows. By elevating your hips with a pillow or two, you can alter the angle of his penetration and hit a good spot he may not otherwise reach. You might also try angling pillows like the Liberator (liberator.com) and other types of sex furniture. They'll make your moves easier and more comfortable in bed and out.
Prostate, Positive Statements and Pumpkin Pie and more in The Big Book of Sex.
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Risky Sex
Having sex at the risk of being observed or getting caught is very exciting for couples that have a touch of exhibitionism in them. If it doesn't harm anyone physically or emotionally, we don't see anything wrong with what you're doing. (Just be discreet when there are kids around.) The problem is that many other risky sexual behaviors can and do hurt people. At the risk of stating the obvious, when it comes to sex, we hope you will enjoy yourself, respect one another's wishes and do no harm.
Role playing, Rough Sex More in The Big Book of Sex.
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Spanking
A love tap on the bum can increase the bond between couples, according to researchers at Northern Illinois University. Plus, women get a jolt of testosterone when they are on the receiving end, but men don't, according to researchers at the University of Pisa in Italy. In our Big Book of Sex survey, 77 percent of women respondents and 40 percent of men said they'd enjoy a couple of butt slaps on occasion.
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Tahitian Method
An oral sex technique in which you lie perpendicular to her body, and moves your tongue back and forth over the hood of her clitoris, stimulating both sides of the clit. By resting his middle finger on her perineum, just below her vagina, you can feel involuntary contractions that'll offer clues when you're doing the tongue work properly.
Talking Dirty, Tantric Sex and more in The Big Book of Sex.
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V Technique
This is an excellent move for adding clitoral stimulation during masturbation or intercourse. Form a V with your index and middle fingers and slide them, fingertips pointing down, over the outer labia. Learn how to draw the clitoral hook up to greater stimulation in The Big Book of Sex.
Vaginal squeeze, Iconic Cock Ring, Form 3 and more of her favorite vibrators and more in The Big Book of Sex.
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We-Vibe II
The first vibrator that can be used during intercourse. Inserted into the vagina, the U-shaped device stimulates her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously—and is narrow enough to allow her partner in.
X Y Z
Yab-Yum
Nope. Not a new candy, but a tantric position. She faces you sitting on your lap with a pillow under her bottom for easier penetration. The position affords constant penis-clitoris contact, but she controls the pressure. Move slowly. The emotional connection created makes Yab-Yum intense, says Lou Paget, a sex educator and author in Los Angeles (see Tantric Sex).
For more hot sex tips, for you and her, grab a copy of The Men's Health & Women's Health Big Book of Sex. It's two books in one!
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