She Wants You to Watch

Foreplay begins at  the cocktail bar when Jeff surreptitiously slips his hand beneath the hem of Anne's skirt. As the two grope in the cab on their way to Jeff's apartment, the driver alternately huffs in disgust. . .and sneaks peeks in the rearview mirror.

Now, in the privacy of Jeff's apartment, Anne, 29, glances at the large windows facing the complex next door. She's making sure the curtains are wide open. Should his neighbors or anyone else passing by happen to look, they would have a clear view of Jeff sliding Anne's panties down her hips and pushing her onto the bed, and Anne wrapping her legs around him.

Sex with Jeff is good. But with the curtains open, it's great. Anne is not shy, clearly. And she's not shy about describing what that exposure does to her. "Knowing that anyone can see us steps up my game," she says. "It makes everything hotter. I like to imagine people are watching—and that they're jealous."


Anne is not alone. I feel the temptation too. So do my girlfriends. Exhibitionism's allure can be strong whether we're participants or observers. That's why so many of us succumb: It's your colleague at yoga, Instagramming herself in the camel pose, the one that shows off her toned midsection. It's your girlfriend, summoning you onto the hotel balcony in her skimpiest lingerie. It's total strangers, filling their iPhones with lascivious selfies. There's an exhibitionist waiting to bust out in most women. And we're more compelled than ever to open that door. When we do, what we show you can reveal everything about what we'd like to see. Here's why—and how to better enjoy the show.

It's Fun to Lure You In
Years ago, my friends and I shared this sexy black leather miniskirt. We dubbed it the "action skirt." It hit just above mid-thigh, and, when paired with a low-cut tee, guaranteed rave reviews from the guys we deemed lucky enough to see it.

That skirt derived its power not only from the fact that it hit perfectly at mid-thigh. The female body, unlike yours, naturally holds the suggestion of sex. And through what we wear—a shapeless hoodie or a tight tank top—we calibrate its suggestiveness. That power of control is important, says Ogi Ogas, Ph.D., a cognitive neuroscientist and the coauthor of A Billion Wicked Thoughts. Ogas assessed the online behavior of more than 100 million people and found that while male fantasies focus on orgasm, female fantasies center on the feeling of being desired. So while a man might like that a woman wants him, that fact alone won't turn him on, says Stephen Snyder, M.D., an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at Mount Sinai Hospital.

Even more frustrating for you? The tactics we women use to lure men don't always work in reverse. Most of us, sadly, just aren't fantasizing about the perfect chest-revealing button-down. That's because we're differently wired to select sexual partners than men are, says David Ley, Ph.D., a psychologist and the author of lnsatiable Wives. We respond to subtler signals—the way you interact with your friends or how you smell—to decide whether we're going home with you and, ultimately, whether you'll find out why my friends and I call it the "action skirt" in the first place.

Make Some Noise: Don't be afraid to exaggerate a few groans, moans, and grunts. A "you're amazing" won't hurt either. "Women feel a strong urge to be the object of your desire," says Ogas.
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Article source: http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/watch-her